Have you ever thought you were not good enough? Well if you have you are like most of us. If you really strip yourself down to the core of who you are - past the roles you have assumed, the successes, the failures - what would you find? What needs to happen for you to really examine the inner depths of who you are? That’s who I want to know and that's who this community needs to see.
Who are you at the very center? What are your core values? If all your worldly responsibilities were eliminated, what remains? Self-examination helps us grow as individuals. It helps us identify who we really are and what we stand for. By peeling back the layers we expose the raw person that others are desiring to know. Our spiritual journeys require us to dig deeper into who we are. It’s scary to think about, but it can be freeing and worthwhile to live your life as who you truly are instead of what others expect you to be.
Give Up On Perfection
The pursuit of perfection is an endless journey. As hard as it may be it is imperative to acknowledge that perfection simply does not exist. Unfortunately many people spend their lives striving for an impossible goal that leaves them feeling inadequate, unfulfilled, and unsuccessful. We are all adequate in our individual abilities. Every person feels fulfilled by unique hobbies, interests, and actions. Success looks different in different people. It is better for us to to accept who we are and grow in self-actualization than to constantly worry if we measure up to some fanciful image. We should not strive for a precise destination or a perfect persona. We should instead strive to understand ourselves and to continually yet gradually grow with love, understanding, and purpose.
I personally struggle daily to be my best self rather than striving to meet others' expectations. I fall back into common roles, minimize my successes, and say or do things I probably shouldn't. I fall short as a husband, father, and son. I find myself saying I'm not good enough, wishing I could change things about myself, rethink my actions, or take back words I have said. I know I can't change the past but I hope my awareness is enough to help me grow and develop in the future. I have to look past the the shame, doubt, and guilt in order to really see me. I need to realize these are the emotions I feel but they do not portray the entire picture of who I am. Who I am is an ongoing process. I need to take time to examine myself, and not be ashamed of what I find. I have to remind myself what God thinks about me...and then believe it.
What God Thinks?
God sees your beauty, God knows your worth. God believes in your giftedness and sees your compassion. God knows your pain, and is in your healing. God loves you for who you are. God values your thoughts and opinions and believes in your choices. God is all around you and through you. God is excited about your journey and where it may lead. God has built courage into your DNA and knows you have what it takes. God has given you strength to walk down the paths of love and peace. God believes in your ability to create equitable relationships in the world around you. God longs for a deeper relationship with you - a long embrace past due. God welcomes all of you at anytime on any day. God delights in you!
See With Your Eyes
So are you good enough? Look in the mirror, look past the guilt, shame, and inadequacies you feel. See yourself - a child of God - and tell yourself you are good enough, because you are, and you always will be.
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The views expressed here are those of the authors and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of Community of Christ. We believe individuals should be allowed to have their own opinions and be at different places in their faith journey.